Figure out what you want and what you are unwilling to sacrifice or endure.

I’m not sure I’ve ever done that. I’ve sort of played it by ear along the way. I do think that ain’t the way to play “the game.” I mean, if we must play the game, we might as well play it by our rules, right?

You’re also right. The manner in which we pursue the desire is weak. I have to learn to cherish myself, and then I won’t have such a hard time expecting to be cherished in return.

Yes, I do say those things about being at the top of the food chain and walking on water. But like you, I don’t always apply it to myself. That’s not the point. The point is you want the person who you engage in a relationship to feel that way about you all the time, at least in the beginning. Sure, later on they will have their moments when they think you are an asshole. In my case it’s usually because I am being an asshole. But their overall opinion of your character and HOW YOU SHOULD BE TREATED AS A PERSON will not change.

Lady friend, the first thing you need to do is figure out what you want and what you are unwilling to sacrifice or endure. Then you only let those partners who fit that description come anywhere near your superwoman self. Alcoholism and stealing should be at the top of your “Things I Will Not Endure” list, btw Disrespect in general should get a top spot on that list. Second chances are for people who have already proven themselves worth it. In the beginning if you screw up, I’m sorry but I just don’t have the time or energy to pass them out.

You mention that you feel desire is weak, but I don’t think it is. It is how you pursue the desire that can be weak. Wanting to be loved and cherished by a good man is normal. Accepting less than what you deserve, that’s weak, and superwomen are anything but weak